层次越高的人，越不为情商所困
<div><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="__bg_gif" data-ratio="0.542" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz/icB0yCLh6LJskicCqV634eQAQB5XU17vNRAGvjTicrdz60VaT4icIez717YoYalhmVwdpKSKbknr5EyV6H1VHSV2Iw/0?wx_fmt=gif" data-type="gif" data-w="500" style="line-height: 1.6; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible !important; width: 767.714px !important;" width="100%"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; white-space: normal; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(102, 102, 102); letter-spacing: 3px; line-height: 28px; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">「情商只是一种锦上添花。」</p><p style="max-width: 100%; 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color: rgb(136, 136, 136); line-height: 1.6; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">原标题《层次越低，越拼情商》</span></p><p><br></p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.15" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz/icB0yCLh6LJu91ia36ryqgAMfr1ahXFuxCc8gsAdvDSM0ibFNrmp11uaP5CDib6T1WRibrWOjW4YcPCo6uib2dVE3UVg/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" data-w="400" style="box-sizing: border-box; vertical-align: middle; word-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible !important; width: auto !important;" width="auto"></p></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="" powered-by="xiumi.us" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="padding-right: 15px; padding-left: 15px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(102, 102, 102); line-height: 2; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.10625" data-s="300,640" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/icB0yCLh6LJtPs7c6bsPvcOA51Sl1dMgU4vkl7VTxtVHPicYicHJ3wU5ibibTXhT1KRspiaShhFG8Hd7yZc4kEKeRDicA/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible !important; width: auto !important;" width="auto"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我在一个美容器材交流会上认识陈芒。作为日本著名美容器材公司的中国区经理，轮到她发言，她第一句话是：我情商很低。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">这种场合自暴槽点，显得很可爱。后来的几次接触，我发现她的情商果然低，直来直去不会说话，有人问她的产品跟某某产品对比怎样，她说肯定是我们的好。<span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果换个情商高一点的，一定会说，两种产品各有各的好。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">陈芒医学院本科毕业，第一份工作在一家民办幼儿园做校医。那是陈芒人生最灰暗的时期。幼儿园人际关系错综复杂，虽然陈芒的学历高，业务好，但作为校医，业务好不好根本没人在意，别人在意的是你会不会说话、能不能讨人喜欢。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">陈芒虽然努力工作，却频频受挫。每天醒来的第一件事，就是怀疑自己书白读了，奖学金白拿了，业务白学了，还不如上个社会大学，多学一点为人处事的方法。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">她把苦恼说给老师听，老师说：“层次低的人才拼情商呢。你一个学医的，不拼技术拼什么情商？”</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.10625" data-s="300,640" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/icB0yCLh6LJtPs7c6bsPvcOA51Sl1dMgUD9bP9iaOYZPHT4433p32lNC4OlsCVicA8Y6gMGWj030SP4aVakDtlr3Q/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible !important; width: auto !important;" width="auto"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">要拼技术，就要去注重技术的地方。陈芒辞职考研，毕业后去了医疗器械公司。她发现在越大的公司，越不拼情商。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">大公司拼的是技术、才能，没人去关注你会不会说话。尤其在以技术起家的公司，老板自己都情商很低。全公司情商最高就是前台跟行政了，但那是工作需要。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.8280632411067194" data-s="300,640" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/VCXmAQvNUtLV9ktHX8KJiaaKlr873GNYB3hicHOpJVaoI8PibBBsh0bSdLWOB4OWXhqSiclh1FOMTGcryzWyM7sQqQ/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="506" style="box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; width: auto !important; visibility: visible !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">陈芒的故事，我讲给很多苦于自己情商太低的人听。在情商被神话的今天，高情商跟好运是人生的两个神。很多人把自己的不成功归因于情商不高、运气太差。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">其实情商高的人，也有短板。他们更适合做熟人、朋友，却未必适合做合作伙伴与好朋友。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我跟情商高的人合作过。他们往往特别有趣、会聊天，知道在什么时候送小礼物能打动人，然而当你顺利地被吸引，想要去合作一个项目的时候，会意外地发现，他们最大的硬伤是不务实。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">当社交给一个人带来太多便利与快感，他就很难踏踏实实去做暂时没人关注与瞩目的事。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">每个人都有能力盲点，这个世界上，单纯靠情商就能完成的事，实在太少了。情商不过是锦上添花，却有那么多人，不去努力织锦，只想要无根之花。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.10625" data-s="300,640" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/icB0yCLh6LJtPs7c6bsPvcOA51Sl1dMgUkX4PIJl8UsX3VIUWl4xOh1wLJHJY7RDAFkRiaTBD4MAgbByysG0vCMg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; visibility: visible !important; width: auto !important;" width="auto"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">不久前我去一个公司谈课程，课程负责人的专业能力极强，短短半个小时的交谈，每句话都是干货。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">中午老板让他陪我们吃饭，他果断拒绝，老板面子当然有点难看。但我相信，无论我还是他的老板，都不会因此不喜欢他，低情商成了他个性的一部分。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">技术含量越高的行业与职位，越不容易拼情商，因为除了情商，每个人有很多渠道去展现自己的能力与魅力。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">特别在意别人用什么态度跟自己说话的人，内心都很虚弱。我们努力提升自己的层次，就是为了避开这样的人。</strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="text-align: center;"><img data-s="300,640" data-type="png" src="http://www.csdn123.net/mydata/showimg.php?url=http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/n9nkKLwTPLjARTdYhYJicgyE2YOJKq4iaSgoLtcYSmKhrwCeM1Zsu1UsO2KgcC8CHdtu1jNgHuG5ftTYa3qVTC8w/0?wx_fmt=png" data-ratio="0.8373626373626374" data-w="455"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">当我们一再强调与迷信高情商，其实是为了逃避其它方面的比拼与努力。情商没你想得那么重要。在情商之外，我至少可以帮你列出5项技能，让你的人生更加成功。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">1.真诚</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">歌手朴树刚出道的时候，我采访他。他话很少，如果没有问到他的心里，会直接沉默，要靠经纪人救场。但我们都喜欢他，因为他的眼睛里，满满都是真诚。他要么不说话，要么一定掏心掏肺地跟你说真话。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">2.学识</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">知识本身就魅力无穷。真正有趣的人，不一定高情商，但一定学识广博。当他们聊到自己知识领域之内的事，你不会介意他是不是微笑，用词合不合理，仅仅知识本身，已经给他戴上了光环。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">3.能力</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果你所在的公司，只拼情商，我建议你赶紧把老板炒了。这样的公司没有前景，你呆在这样的公司也不会有前途。能力是一个人的综合素质，情商只是其中很小的一部分。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">4.心胸</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">苹果前任CEO乔布斯情商很低，所以他对下属情商方面也十分放纵，员工只要把工作完成，怎么都行。情商低的人，更要心胸宽广、体谅同类。情商低不是错，情商低还特别敏感才是错。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">5.自嘲</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">大大方方地承认自己情商低，可以让你在短时间内收获很多朋友，毕竟，大多数高情商的人，其实更愿意跟低情商的人做朋友，因为不烧脑啊。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">刚出校门的时候，你觉得情商特别重要，因为除了情商，你拿不出别的东西去比拼。如果工作十年以后，你还在为情商苦恼，问题一定不是出在情商上，而是你没有努力走上坡路，你的能力配不上你的年龄。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">创投圈流行一句话：老板不一定情商高，做基层员工却一定要情商高。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">别为情商所困，努力在你擅长的事情上发光发热。</span></strong>你的层次越高，遇到有见识的人越多，高情商越不会被当作普世价值，去要求每个人。</p></section></section></section></section><p><br></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(242, 242, 242);">-作者-</span></strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; white-space: normal; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; line-height: 25.6px; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">艾小羊，复杂人生的解局人，品质生活的上瘾者，专治各种不高兴。代表作：《我不过无比正确的生活》。公众号：清唱（ID：qingchangaixiaoyang）</span></p></div>
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